Signs Your Child Is Struggling with Their Emotions
It’s a huge world out there, and every child experiences it differently. Sometimes, a child can struggle with the things around them and the quicker you identify these signs, the faster you can bring your child back to happiness.
Problems with Other Children
Are you finding your child is struggling to make friends at school or day-care? If you’re hearing that they don’t get along with other children, try and see for yourself exactly how your child responds to others. Clear signs of aggression – including shouting, biting, or pushing – suggests that your child is struggling to develop social skills. It’s understandable that you will find this behavior embarrassing, but don’t worry; this isn’t necessarily a reflection on your parenting skills, but simply part of their development. Many psychologists have found that negative interactions with siblings and other children reinforce how the child shouldn’t treat others, and will improve with their experiences.
Extremes of Emotions
Children are unpredictable, and it’s pretty normal for them to overreact to something small. But if this is happening more often than not – and in response to experiences which are meant to be positive, such as visiting family or buying them clothes – then it might be time to talk. For a healthy development, your child needs to show positive emotion in response to positive experiences. If you’re concerned this isn’t happening, you don’t have to tackle it alone – professional support is available, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong in seeking behavioral therapy to give your child that extra bit of help.
No matter how independent some children can be, a healthy relationship with their caregiver will always warrant a positive response when they enter the room. However, if your child is turning their back, refusing to be interacted with or resents proximity, this is a strong indication that your child is struggling with their emotions.
This may seem like a contradiction to the latter, but extremes on either end of the scale can have an unhealthy effect on children. An overly-attached child will obsessively stay with their mother, father or carer and experience violent and inconsolable distress when the caregiver is absent. This signals that the child relies fully on the adult for a feeling of safety and is having problems interacting independently and with the world. Be careful with this one – some children really do just love their momma and papa that much. But if it’s becoming a problem which upsets your child’s friends or their relatives, it should be addressed as soon as possible.
If there’s one thing to bear in mind when it comes to reading your child’s feelings, it’s that many of their actions will be healthy and normal for their development. Sometimes the best person to ask about how they’re really feeling is the child – more often than not, this will give you the information you need to solve your child’s conflicts and help them develop the skills to find confidence and happiness.